[VENT] Argh! Family issues!

[Yas]

NaeNae- Thankyou I do throw all thier belongings into the room- but it's just so annoying that i have to cart thier crap up the stairs in the first place. Im 27 weeks pregnant ffs! They are adults, but act like children when they are around me. It drives me mad.
Thankyou xxxxxxxxxx

[NaeNae]

I didn't realise your place was double story ........ bugger that - put their crap on the door step!

[Catastrophic]

Hugs Yas. I hope that the eldest moves out and you are able to have a little breather. And maybe the youngest will fall into line a little more.

Your nice, I told my little bro if he wants to move it it's $150 a week and no arguements. I hope they know how easy they have it.

[fionas]

It sounds like the situation is resolving slowly. It also sounds like you and all your siblings have had a really rough trot and regardless of the fact that you are all officially now adults, I can imagine that to young adults like your sisters they may need reassurance that they are loved and they have someone to turn to unconditionally. Usually that's our parents but unfortunately in your family it's you and that's not really fair when you're pregnant. That also doesn't excuse them being pigs and taking you for granted at all but I wonder if some gentle words may work too like, "I love you, I want to be here for you but when you treat me like this, I don't feel loved either."

I'd recommend that you either have a big heart-to-heart on neutral ground like a cafe or have a few family counselling sessions where you can all talk it out. I think also emphasise to them that you are trying to teach them the skills that they will need to have in the big, wide world - like budgeting. We all have to learn those skills to survive and you're not being harsh at all.

[Yas]

I didn't realise your place was double story ........ bugger that - put their crap on the door step!

Lol, I have thought about it!

MN- thanks hun. I think my littlest sis will fall into line-she helps sometimes. TBH i would expect alot more money from anyone else who was boarding with us, but i know that this is the only oppertunity my sister will have to save up money to get the things she needs- like a car, bond, furniture etc. She has no-one else to help her xx

It sounds like the situation is resolving slowly. It also sounds like you and all your siblings have had a really rough trot and regardless of the fact that you are all officially now adults, I can imagine that to young adults like your sisters they may need reassurance that they are loved and they have someone to turn to unconditionally. Usually that's our parents but unfortunately in your family it's you and that's not really fair when you're pregnant. That also doesn't excuse them being pigs and taking you for granted at all but I wonder if some gentle words may work too like, "I love you, I want to be here for you but when you treat me like this, I don't feel loved either."

I'd recommend that you either have a big heart-to-heart on neutral ground like a cafe or have a few family counselling sessions where you can all talk it out. I think also emphasise to them that you are trying to teach them the skills that they will need to have in the big, wide world - like budgeting. We all have to learn those skills to survive and you're not being harsh at all.

Thankyou Yeah, my parents are useless, they never should have been able to have kids.....i guess that's what so hard about this situation-they really don't have anyone else.....just me. We have no close aunties or anyone. It was always us together, the awesome foursome It tears me apart because i love them so much, have protected them the best that i could, given everything for so long......but it's changed, because i am a mummy and soon to be wife now.
I have my own family that need me, that i need to be able to protect and nurture. Not that i won't be there for my sisters and brother...
We have been talking alot over the last day, and hopefully we'll have more of a chat tonight to sort out exactly what's going on.
Thankyou for your advice xx